Get Premium
Dark mode theme is available exclusively for premium users. Learn more about the benefits of subscribing.
No fees, cancel anytime.
Dark Mode 
No fees, cancel anytime 
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone was acting inappropriate, but no one besides you didn’t seem to notice? And you didn’t say anything just because you felt as if it would just make everything worse? This TikTok user @nayaaford asked her followers to share what is something that people find normal or even idealised when it is an example of toxic behaviour. In her video that has 49.6k likes and almost 3.5k comments, she pointed out that one of the examples of toxic behaviour is wanting a “significant other” who is unfriendly and even mean to other people just because this would mean that they are not going to cheat.
Image credits: jade:
This post may include affiliate links.
#1
Minimizing your own experience by saying “others have it way worse than you”. No. My feelings are valid regardless of how worse it could be.
It encouraged more people to share their examples of toxic behaviour in the comment section: overprotected partners who end up being control freaks, covering early abuse signs with “if someone is mean to you, it means they like you”, or blaming one’s bad behaviours or lack of responsibility to their zodiac sign. This endless list shows some ridiculous as well as serious problems that society faces but not really takes into consideration, instead they are simply normalised.
RELATED:
#3
Giving men glory for doing all the normal things women do..ie: cleaning, cooking, caring for their own kids, grocery shopping, etc
The virality of the video and the number of comments of this TikTok video showed that people are actually aware of these toxic behaviours. But why then people get along with these situations? Most of them occur in the family and groups of friends. So not saying to your family member or a close friend that they are being unreasonable saves you from a fight that at first seems unnecessary because these people are close to you, so why would they want bad things for you?
#5
Don't come at me but moms who excessively drink wine to put up with their kids. you'll never convince me it's ok .
Later all these saved fights turn little annoying behaviours into normalised habits: spitting something upsetting and then calling yourself “brutally honest”, being abusive towards your son’s/daughter’s partner, or spreading toxic positivity when clearly this is not the way to solve an occurring problem.
Do you also find some other things that people say or do to be toxic, or maybe you know an effective way on how to stop this kind of behaviour? Share your thoughts in the comments!
#7
Giving money to homeless on YouTube. Toxic. You don't need other people to see you doing charitable things for it to be worth doing.
#10
Adhd- just because you were late a few times and got distracted by your friends in class doesn't mean you have it. It's not fun and quirky.
#12
"Push yourself till it hurts” when it comes to work, school, physical activities. I don't get paid enough to go over my physical limits.
#14
When the current gfs hate their boyfriends ex's for no other reason but the fact they dated him.
#15
Mother in law's being abusive towards their son mates it's normal in so many cultures and it's NEVER OKAY
#17
The whole “respect your elders” where I agree, you should show respect but there is a lot of disrespectful elderly and people in general who don't
#19
Overprotective partners - your partner should trust your judgment enough to let you stand up for yourself or ask for their help when it's needed
#21
People romanticise "being crazy" in relationships. "Yeah she's so crazy, she deleted every girl off my Facebook, she's so crazy I love her though
#22
Friendzoning! setting boundaries in friendships should be okay. no one owes you getting into a relationship
#26
The concept of forgiveness nowadays is just "oh yeah they hurt you and u prob have trauma u will deal with forever but just forgive and move on" um no
#28
I don't know if this is toxic but people think that because two people have been together for years their relationship is perfect and healthy.
#30
Couples that take pride in being each other's only friends and spend ALL their time together. It's good to be separate from your partner sometimes
#34
Befriending the kid that's alone out of pity. Bruh sometimes they just don't like the environment or people
#35
Being petty, people wear it as a badge of honor. You can have boundaries so people don't overstep but being petty is usually just extreme immaturity.
#38
Having no feelings and not wanting to admit when you actually care or when something is actually affecting you
#39
People bragging about having no boundaries like how their bestfriends just show up in their rooms with no notice like some ppl need boundaries
#40
Standing by a partner when they are unwilling to better themselves and their life situation
#42
The idea your friends owe you so much more than they really do... let people be independent and live their lives. Be a good friend but don't be clingy
#44
Maladaptive Daydreaming- its not cute and fun, you miss out on ur life and become extremely dependent on it. you also can't turn it off its alwys on
What do you think ?
Murple 4 years ago (edited)
Idk if this is toxic or not but when parents (typically dads) “joke” about how if the boyfriend stays over, the shotgun will be out or something like that. Or they’ll camp outside the boyfriends room so he can’t go anywhere. It just seems so immature and shows a complete disregard for the guys feelings.
juice 4 years ago
it is toxic. not only does it shame and disregard the boyfriend, it asserts that the daughter "belongs" to the dad/parents. neither of those things are okay.
Load More Replies...
Oliver Parker 4 years ago
I really want to add something: they pretend to have depression because apparently its cool. It literally kills people.
Murple 4 years ago (edited)
Idk if this is toxic or not but when parents (typically dads) “joke” about how if the boyfriend stays over, the shotgun will be out or something like that. Or they’ll camp outside the boyfriends room so he can’t go anywhere. It just seems so immature and shows a complete disregard for the guys feelings.
juice 4 years ago
it is toxic. not only does it shame and disregard the boyfriend, it asserts that the daughter "belongs" to the dad/parents. neither of those things are okay.
Load More Replies... Oliver Parker 4 years ago
I really want to add something: they pretend to have depression because apparently its cool. It literally kills people.
Related on Bored Panda
