Confidence and ignorance are a dangerous mix, and it can be especially potent when it comes to men who feel that they have the right to tell women what to do. On the /r/NotHowGirlsWork subreddit, moderators and contributors catalog the craziest cases of men (and, in odd cases, even women) sharing their most head-scratching takes on women’s minds, bodies and rights.
In the very best-case scenario, some of these might be ignorant but well-wishing ignorant men who are open to learning from their mistakes. In many cases, however, these may be representatives of darker online communities whose members can be affected by mental health issues and a downward spiral of hate against women.
We’ll break down what some of these communities are and the real-world dangers they may present to women below.
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An Oldie But Goodie
“Instagram Wisdom”
Incels (involuntary celibate) are one of the more hateful misogynistic communities online. Some members have even been involved in real-world violence against women. Unfortunately, they aren’t the only misogynistic online community. Other toxic communities in the broader “manosphere” - a coalition of sites online oriented towards men’s issues - include:
- MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way): Men advocating their separation into a woman-less society;
- The red-pill community: A broader online community that idolizes what it sees as traditional gender roles and masculine ideals. Many men in this community hold misogynistic beliefs about women’s familial responsibilities and roles.
- MRA (Men’s Rights Activists): The men’s rights movement is a broader movement advocating a focus on numerous issues affecting men. Some members of this movement see women as adversaries in solving men’s issues, while others embrace feminism.
- Pick-up artists: This is a community of men who see women primarily as objects of desire and believe that the use of specific algorithms or formulas - collectively called “game” - will help them attract women.
Read on for one professor’s insights into the problem of online misogyny.
Pants Are Evil
Sure You Did And The Roast Xd
What A Piece Of S***t!
Why Aren't Women More Superficial?
Bored Panda reached out to Professor Chuka Nestor Emezue, Ph.D., MPH, MPA, CHES at Rush University for additional insights into the problem of misogynistic hate online. As an expert on children’s, women’s, and family health, Professor Emezue has conducted research into these hateful online communities and potential de-radicalization interventions.
For many of us, it seems like comments like these might be products of ignorance. Professor Emezue explained, however, that it’s not that simple: “I believe that ignorance is not the root cause of the issue at hand. It is too easy to just blame a lack of awareness of what is moral and sensible today. The current global climate surrounding masculinity has created a perfect storm - contributing to this rise in global misogyny. Factors such as unattended mental health problems, hopelessness, progress made by women in various fields, extremist political beliefs that reinforce male dominance, and poverty contribute to this phenomenon.”
Another Alpha Male
Sir That Is Not How This Works
What The F**k Does That Mean 😭
Finally Found One In The Wild
The Ever-Confusing Hymen
Um?
Leading social media platforms and online communities have taken steps to de-platform incels and other misogynistic communities, but they are certain to find places to congregate elsewhere. And even so, many of the comments mocked by the /r/NotHowGirlsWork subreddit are found on mainstream platforms like Twitter.
Professor Emezue helped understand the importance of these communities to incels and others, who see them as a respite from what they perceive as unfair treatment by women or society at large: “I believe that these online channels provide a sense of belonging and companionship to many incels who may not have these connections in their daily lives. Young incels on these social media platforms egg each other on. You should expect many will double down on their beliefs and efforts to subjugate women.”
“It's quite uncomplicated really,” Professor Emezue continued. “Nobody wants to lose. And when you allow yourself to be so convinced that others are to blame for your misplacement in society, anything that presents itself as a way out will suffice. In this case, as many boys and men grow hopeless, or feel like they cannot compete in the home, in the workplace, and elsewhere, they must find someone to blame. In this case, incels believe that females, feminism, and 'wokeness' are the culprits.”
Don't Miss Out Your Biology Classes!
Apparently We’re Bonded To Everyone
Yes, Stick It Into My Urethra 😩
Not How Abortions Work
Womens Bodies Aren’t Actually Theirs
I Don’t Think Any Of These People Ever Go Outside
I Need .. I Need... A Mother
"5min Of Continuons Sex"
Women In Their 20’s-30’s = Old Chunky Milk
Attractive Girlfriends Have Literally Thousands Of Other Options And Therefore Won't Stay Faithful Apparently
Of Course Some Men Think They Can Do This Better
This Is Why We Need Sex Ed
Wow, And I Had No Idea
Saw This Gem On Fb Today
Found In The Wild
Vito Barbieri Thinks The Vagina Can Be Accessed By The Mouth? An Old But Good One
Oh Yeah Women Are Only Here To Be The Beautiful Wifes Of Men
Somehow I Just *know* This Boy Needs All Women To Get 2 Or 3 Stitches 😬😆
Women Don't Use Computers
A Groundbreaking Discovery Of Gspot By This Bozo
I Just Don’t Think There’s Any Research Backing That Up
Bro What 😐
I Have No Words
Women Can’t Be Software Engineers, Apparently
Another Guy Trying To Downplay Childbirth And Lying Horribly About It
I Love Being A Woman
Why Is This Their First Thought ?!!
Apparently Men Can't Control Themselves Around Women In College
Eh What??
Women And Their Ungrateful Expectations For Enjoying Sex
Found This On Reddit
Why Are Men
How Lesbians Are Made
I'm... At A Loss Of Words
Found On Facebook. I... Have No Words
If Men Biologically Hate Hair, Why Bald Women Aren't The Pinnacle Of Beauty For Them?
Alright Buddy… It’s Definitely The Women…
“Men Providing Basic Survival In Exchange For Sexual Favors Is So Interwoven Into The Fabric Of Our Society That It Would Collapse Without It.” Ffs 🤦♀️
Yikes 😬
That's Just Beyond Insane
Ah, Short Skirt... You Must Be Satan's Daughter!
F**king Disgusting
Umm... Who's Gonna Tell Him?
Because Of Oxytocin Bonding Duh
Sir, They Are Lesbians
At Least Morbo Gets It
Who Needs An Education When We Can Have This
Orgasms And Cumming Are 2 Different Things Btw
You Heard It Here Folks, Women Are "Denying" Men Marriage
Line Up Ladies, This Guy's A Huge Catch. Happy International Women's Day!
Being Single Or Childless Isn't That Bad As They Think
Women Being Turned On? Never Seen, So It Must Be A Lie
Has Any Woman Ever Lactated Cause A Friend Was Pregnant?
I’m Pretty Sure It’s Not How It Works
Oh God
Yeah Cuz Getting Creepy Men Sending You Sexual Messages Is Totally The Same As Finding Wholesome Relationships 🙄
🤮🤮🤮
Sure, Bro. You “Know” Women 🙄
Women Love Getting Homework To Prove Their Worthiness
The Incel Forum Describing Joan Of Arc’s Execution
This Ad For A Mobile Game
Real Women Make Ice Cream From Their Breast Milk
Women Are ...*checks Notes* F**k Sockets
😬😬yikes
Found In The Wild
"Women Will F*ck Anything" 🤦♀️
'hot Girl Schedule' 🤨
Former Ufc Fighter Unable To Differentiate Between “Some Influencers” And “All Women”
Tate Fanboy Explains Human Trafficking
No Words
Girls Ignoring Messages Don’t Want *real* Men Lol
Aint No Way 💀
Seriously Don’t Get What’s Wrong With Flared Pants But Ok 👍🏻
This Is The Book My Creepy Grampa Gave Me As A "Gift"
Women Are Only Happy When Married
Are You Sure About That?
Consent Sex Doesn't Mean Consent Pregnancy
Sorry If This Is A Repost
A Guy I Know Just Posted This. He’s Clearly Never Met A Latina Woman
Yeah We Don't Know How Our Vagina Works
Huh What ?
That's Not How That Works
The Wall Is Creeping Up On You!
Sir I Think You Are Confused
Got To Love A Meme That Forgets About Consent
It's Not About That At All Is It :/
Oh Boy
I Think Most Fathers Would Disagree
And She Wouldn't Be Wrong
Please Go To Therapy
Til That Hormonal Birth Control Corrodes My Femininity
As A Fellow Female…
Saw This On Another Sub. Gee I Wonder Who’s The Problem Here
I Don't Even Know Where To Begin
Oh Man Women Who Were Born Without Hymens Must Confuse This Man
Why Just Why?
Chores Are “Girls Work” Now.😒
Idk If I'm Just Stupid But I Don't Get The Wall
Stupid Incel Meme
Idiots When Women Aren’t Helpless And Wear Pants: 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱
Why ??
Really?
Nope Nope Nope
You Can Guess What Sub This Was From, I Don’t Even Know What Goes On Through Their Heads
What Even?
I stopped at number 10. I can't. This is just too cringe and infuriating.
I stopped at number 10. I can't. This is just too cringe and infuriating.
