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THE TRUTH ABOUT: Things women do that gives men the ick | History Defined
Three decades after the release of the bestseller 'Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus,' the debate over how and why men and women are different from each other and what that means for their roles in society is far from settled.
However, a survey by the Pew Research Center found that majorities of Americans say they are different in their physical abilities, their personal interests, their approach to parenting, and the way they express their feelings.
Reddit user u/Diligent-Log6805 decided to explore the relationship between these two sexes from a male perspective and made a post on the platform, asking: "Guys, what do women do that give you the ick?" Immediately, the answers started pouring in.
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#1
Denigrating and emasculating men who show emotions. It's honestly one of the most f****d up things anyone can do to another person.
Also, using a man's kids as pawns in disputes, like cutting off visitation because you're mad at him. Don't f*****g do that, it's just cruel to the kids.
We got in touch with u/Diligent-Log6805 and the Redditor agreed to have a chat with us about his post.
"Just before I asked that question, [I was talking to someone] about a relative who's had a series of failed relationships and we were wondering whether she or her boyfriends were the problem. So I went to Reddit to ask," he told Bored Panda.
And the discussion took off. It now has 18.8K upvotes and 13.5K comments.
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When asked about any topics that stood out to him in the thread, u/Diligent-Log6805 said, "There seemed to be a pattern where guys feel like women give nonverbal cues and expect men to correctly interpret those cues instead of clearly saying what's on their minds."
"This leads to a lot of miscommunication."
#4
The f*****g testing.
I appreciate that you have been in previous relationships where someone lied and/or cheated on you but don't spend your entire single life trying to catch me in some lie so you can have your self fulfilling prophecy that all men are liars.
"Personally, I think communication is key to harmonious relationships between men and women, especially when there's a disagreement," u/Diligent-Log6805 added. "Basically, try to at least talk and let each other know how you feel about something."
"Lastly a little empathy and patience goes a long way in fostering harmonious interactions between men and women."
#6
When they think a toxic trait of theirs is cute/quirky. There's a big difference between being blunt in a respectful way and being a b***h.
#10
Loudly empathizing with every cause and group on the planet but treating people in their personal lives like trash.
To get around these barriers and allow men and women foster harmonious relationships, u/Diligent-Log6805, who is a husband and a father himself, believes that communication is key. Especially when there's a disagreement.
"Basically, try to at least talk and let each other know how you feel about something. [Also,] a little empathy and patience go a long way," he added.
#13
silent treatment, I've hated it for the longest time, when you do something wrong and you try to apologize and they say nothing is even worse, just hurtful.
That's true. While all relationships are different and each one has its own unique ups and downs, being able to talk to your partner means that you'll be able to share your worries, show support for one another, and work together to handle conflict more effectively.
According to Dr. John Gottman, a clinical psychologist and founder of the Gottman Institute, a couple's communication pattern can even predict how successful a relationship will be.
This can also translate to our overall well-being. For example, one study found that when people feel that their partner values them, they are more likely to sleep better.
#14
Be super clingy, not have a life outside of the relationship, and baby talk when trying to be cute.
#15
Saying dumb s**t like “ as a MAN why are you taking care of yourself?” Or “ as a MAN your house shouldn’t be so clean”. Like sorry for not being a tramp.
#17
Over-the-top solipsism. That whole "I don't perceive it that way, therefore you perceiving it that way cannot be valid" mindset.
#19
I saw a cute girl on a treadmill at the gym sneeze 4 times and not attempt to cover her mouth once. Absolutely disgusted me
#20
Lie/do something hurtful, then play victim so you end up comforting them for what they did even tho you wanna cry Lol
#22
Probably if a woman constantly texts me what I’m doing every 30 mins. Can’t stand when they say “wyd”. That’s some high school s**t right there
#24
I think not taking accountability is the biggest one.
You’ve messed up/were rude/incorrect/whatever, but just doubling down and never apologising or admitting fault is so unattractive. Just own it and apologise like a grown up.
“I’m sorry but…” etc.
#25
One for when you're in a relationship:
When you're with friends and they become distinctly less pleasant to you than when you're alone, like making fun of you and making jokes at your expense which they normally would not make. Have had it in more than one relationship.
Like... what is that about?
#28
always talk about themselves and never ask you anything at all so the entire thing just revolves around her, not even like how was your day or are you ok, just always about them and the attention
#30
Cleaning my wife’s hair out of the drains grosses me out to the point where I gag. Idk why. I had no problem with other gross things. I can even clean up my dogs vomit with little to no gagging.
#31
Whenever i get called a “Sassy man” Whenever i talk about my feelings and actually wanting a woman who puts in emotional work like i do? Like sorry if my only options aren’t “fun boyfriend”, “Horndog”, and working 12 hours
