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It can be satisfying to see a niche thing you love – a book, a band, an artist – become popular in the mainstream. Yet it can also be upsetting. You root for their success for so long, but once everybody knows about them, it doesn't feel as special. That's gatekeeping, the grown-up cousin of "You can't sit with us."

But there is a community that doesn't gatekeep: the Gates Open, Come In subreddit. It's where people invite each other to like and enjoy stuff others might tell them is inappropriate or uncool, and generally have each other's backs. Like the kids say these days, "In the clurb, we all fam."

Bored Panda got in touch with one of the community's moderators, u/Merari01, and they kindly agreed to tell us more about the subreddit. Read our short chat with them below!

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If Anybody Has A Problem With That I'm Going To Let It Go

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u/Merari01 told us that the theme of the subreddit drew them to become one of the moderators for the community. "The internet can be a negative place, full of angry people and content, which in some form makes people feel excluded," they told us via a message. "This subreddit is positive, inclusive, and shows a welcoming atmosphere."

The Redditor believes that people want their feeds to have more positivity. "Having a space that is explicitly inclusionary resonates with a lot of them," the netizen added. While moderating the subreddit's comment section can sometimes be challenging when members get into petty arguments, u/Merari01 is pretty happy with the job overall. "It's a fun space to be in, so, it's not a real challenge."

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    Inclusion

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    #3

    Dogs And Cats My Favorite Animals

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    We can gatekeep many things: the recipe for our favorite pasta, where we bought our fabulous shoes, our favorite sports teams, and many other things. In 2022, Vogue actually chose "gatekeep" as the word of the year. What, according to them, used to mean institutions or people withholding power now means not sharing information or access to something.

    On TikTok, not gatekeeping means sharing where you got that sweater from and how much your tickets to see Taylor Swift cost. But Vogue writes that this is slightly ironic: if anything, the app made information and the world itself more accessible than ever. "Want to find out where a media-only fashion party or sample sale preview is taking place? You can probably hunt down the invite on TikTok."

    #4

    Finally Someone Who Gets It!

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    #5

    Happy Lunar Year Everyone

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    #6

    This One Was Nice

    Wholesome online support with bagpipes comment and supportive reply from Metallica's account.

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    Licensed psychologist and lecturer on the psychology of metal and punk rock Steve Byrne explains that social psychologists have observed our tendency to divide into groups. We make friends with people who have similar interests and outlooks on life, and we align ourselves against those who are different.

    Byrne points to the Robbers Cave experiment, carried out in the 1950s. In it, social psychologist Muzafer Sherif studied 22 boys who, during the experiment, divided themselves into in and out-groups. It reflected the most basic truth that we divide ourselves according to many things: political beliefs, likes and dislikes, and even for the benefit of our own social standing.

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    #7

    Everything Turned Out Just Fine, Then

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    #8

    It's Never Too Late

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    #9

    Struggle Has No Inherent Value

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    Byrne writes that it's natural for us to see those who are different from us as a threat. Then we want to appear stronger, more sophisticated, and cooler in front of them. And that's where gatekeeping comes in. In essence, we gatekeep because we're insecure. Putting others down is one of the ways we cope with insecurities. "At least we're not as bad as them," we comfort ourselves.

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    #10

    Literally The Gate Was Open

    Sweet wedding story featuring Animal Crossing cake toppers and a framed photo of a couple celebrating their special day.

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    #11

    Mentally Empathetic Dad

    Father bringing food to son at computer, offering wholesome support during a dinner party.

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    #12

    Brooklyn Librarians Subverting Censorship & Allowing Any Teenager In America To Have A Library Card

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    Perhaps now more than ever, division into insiders and outsiders is hurting us all around the world. Byrne suggests that some political leaders thrive on sowing division with the "us against them" mentality. In reality, there must be very little that's actually different about us.

    #13

    What An Adorable Man Doing Such A Lovely Thing ❤️😍🥰

    Elderly man with vitiligo crochets dolls for children with the condition, displaying wholesome support online.

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    #14

    It Got A Little Aggressive, But I Like The Message

    People celebrating a Hindu wedding, highlighting cultural appreciation and support in an online discussion.

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    #15

    For The Waiters

    Pie chart showing a reason for politeness to waiters: understanding their humanity and struggles.

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    "Those who are seemingly kept out by these gatekeepers might be seeing the gate as some hulking castle drawbridge, sealed up tight and ready to defend a kingdom against marauders when it’s really just a broken garden fence, easily stepped over," Byrne writes.

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    #16

    Just Let Them Be They

    Tweet showing a wholesome poem about pronouns, supporting acceptance and kindness.

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    #17

    Stress Relief

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    #18

    Friendly Incentive

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    Interestingly, some people see gatekeeping as a good thing. In an article for The Cut, Ann Friedman suggests that some communities gatekeep to preserve their culture. She writes about Anthony Bourdain worrying about sending tourist masses to mom-and-pop restaurants, as well as Black creators feeling conflicted when white creators use their aesthetics, language, and memes and calling it appropriation.

    #19

    Every Job Is Valid!

    Facebook post discussing the importance of valuing different professions and guiding kids in finding their strengths.

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    #20

    Shout Out To The Solo Eaters

    Wholesome tweet exchange about eating alone, highlighting confidence over loneliness.

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    #21

    Emotional Rollercoaster! (Pls Remove If Posted Before)

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    Kelly Elizabeth Wright, a lexicographer with the American Dialect Society, explained that gatekeeping in this context gives minorities back that little bit of power they lose in this age of vast media consumption. "You could be making a piece of content that is for other Black people or for your community, but then it's public or it gets algorithmically exposed. There is less control in the way social media is surfaced and served to people."

    #22

    Luke Skywalker Makes Young Star Wars Fan Feel Loved

    Tweet by Mark Hamill responding to a fan about creative toddler Star Wars names.

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    #23

    Depression Gateopening

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    #24

    That's His Whole Thing

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    Sirena Bergman writes for Business Insider that the boom in tourism in Hawaii during the pandemic caused native Hawaiians and Pacific Islanders to "gatekeep" the state. The natives talked about the rise of COVID-19 cases and the environmental impacts of tourism and asked people not to travel there, but still faced backlash.

    #25

    You're Not A Machine. You're Garden

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    #26

    Moms,,,/-

    Moms sharing funny parenting stories with wholesome support online, showcasing diverse experiences and camaraderie.

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    #27

    You Don't Have To Be Good At Something To Enjoy Doing It

    Text encouraging self-expression and enjoyment over perfection, emphasizing it's okay to not be good at everything.

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    That's how "gatebreaking" came to TikTok, the opposite of gatekeeping. The idea is that there should be no barriers to information, expertise, places, or knowledge. But Bergman observes that there's more nuance to this problem. While being against gatekeeping is, in essence, standing against inequality, it's alright for some people to sometimes stay on the fringes of certain spaces.

    #28

    Pls Info Dump On Me I Love It

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    #29

    Slow Down

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    #30

    Drink What You Like!!!

    Tweet praising men who order fruity drinks, challenging societal norms, described as having strong confidence.

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    However, in most cases, the old cliche "sharing is caring" might just be true. Sharing information, access, knowledge, and just genuinely having each other's backs. If this wholesome list is right up your alley, Pandas, check out the previous ones that we've done about the "Gates Open, Come On In" community here and here!

    #31

    Words To Live By

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    #32

    Good Parentin

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    #33

    Definitely Mercedes! Wait...what?

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    #34

    Based College Rule

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    #35

    Sh*tter’s Open!

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    #36

    Found My Weekend Plans

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    #37

    Really Behind You

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    #38

    I'm Sure Many Of Us Needed To Hear This

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    #39

    As Someone Who's Gone For 6 Years, It Really Does Make A Difference

    Wholesome online support: a tweet emphasizes that therapy is beneficial for everyone, not just those with "issues."

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    #40

    Count Me In

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    #41

    Sometimes You Win Sometimes You Learn

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    #42

    Another Good One From Tumblr

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    #43

    All Fans Welcome

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    #44

    Self Digansis

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    #45

    Japan/America Cultural Exchange

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    #46

    Something Wholesome From Facebook

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    #47

    Do You, No Matter What!

    Wholesome shoutout to creative individuals, including comedians, writers, and painters, embraced with irony and support.

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    #48

    Women Wearing What They Like In Peace

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    #49

    Gay Body Shaming Is Real

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    #50

    A Wheelchair Accessible Swing At A Public Park

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    #51

    Soup And Bread, Mate

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    #52

    Ice Cream

    Ice Cream

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    #53

    At The Minnesota United Game Last Night

    At The Minnesota United Game Last Night

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    #54

    Life Is Short: Play Nintendo

    Life Is Short: Play Nintendo

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    #55

    Some Comfort

    Some Comfort

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    #56

    You Are Still Valid No Matter What

    You Are Still Valid No Matter What

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    #57

    And A Good Wisdom It Is

    And A Good Wisdom It Is

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    #58

    This New Train Station Has Baby Changing Stations In Both Restrooms

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    #59

    Paper Books Are Great

    Paper Books Are Great

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    #60

    Just Like The Pied Piper LED Rats Through The Streets... 🎵🎵

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    #61

    You’re Such A Girl

    You’re Such A Girl

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    #62

    Restroom Sign At My Gym

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    #63

    Metallica Invites Y’all To Come On In

    Metallica Invites Y’all To Come On In

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    #64

    Super Mario Chess Has No Time For Gender Stereotypes

    Super Mario Chess Has No Time For Gender Stereotypes

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    #65

    All Love Is Good ♥️

    All Love Is Good ♥️

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    #66

    The R/Crochet Community Is Very Wholesome

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    #67

    Nsp Holding The Gate Open

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    #68

    Life Is Much Better Offline

    Life Is Much Better Offline

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    #69

    It's A Big Ask But I'm Behind It

    It's A Big Ask But I'm Behind It

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    #70

    Sharing A Love Of Music Does Not Have To Be Limited By Genre

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    With All The Brouhaha About Whether Marvel Movies Are True Cinema, Here's Steven Spielberg's Take:

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    #72

    Vent’s Open Come On In

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    #73

    You Are One Of Us Now

    You Are One Of Us Now

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    #74

    Star Wars Is For All

    Star Wars Is For All

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    I Found This Lifesaver Gummies Packaging Very Wholesome :)

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    #76

    The Country "Georgia" 🇬🇪 Or The State Of "Georgia" 🇺🇲?

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    #77

    November Reminders

    November Reminders

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    Testing Your Fluency

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    April Fools 😁

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    People Only Like You Because

    People Only Like You Because

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    #81

    This One Has Been A Long Time Coming

    This One Has Been A Long Time Coming

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    No Gates In Gaming

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    A Surprise, To Be Sure, But A Welcome One

    A Surprise, To Be Sure, But A Welcome One

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    A Little Body Positivity From 1977

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    #85

    Xbox With The Wholesomeness

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    #86

    No Gatekeeping Here, Kings

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    Don’t Let Anyone Make You Feel Bad For Feeling Bad. These Are Big Things And It’s Normal To Be Upset

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    Wholesome Avatar Meme

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    Wholesome Venom

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    Anyone Can Appreciate Kind Words ❤️

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    People Who Know How To Sew But Don't Call Themselves Girls Are Also Valid, We Love You Too :)

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    Don't Matter You're A Skateboarder

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    #93

    Found This And New It Fit Here

    Found This And New It Fit Here

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    There Is No Difference

    There Is No Difference

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    🎺🎷🎺🎷🎺🎷🎺🎷

    🎺🎷🎺🎷🎺🎷🎺🎷

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    (They’re Both Sports Cars)

    (They’re Both Sports Cars)

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    #97

    Just Tell People Their Shirts Are Cool!!

    Just Tell People Their Shirts Are Cool!!

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    Old Players 🤝 New Players

    Old Players 🤝 New Players

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    Narcissistic Survivors Have My Heart

    Narcissistic Survivors Have My Heart

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