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Not everyone will accept a piece of advice, no matter how sensible it is. Sure, you may mean well, but the other person may feel insulted, maybe even to the point of resentment

So, to save yourself from awkward moments at the dinner table, here are some words of wisdom that the people of Reddit have deemed “socially unacceptable.” Yes, these tips are rational and well-intentioned, but as you read through, you will understand why they may not sit well with some. 

Scroll through and feel free to join in on the conversation in the comments below!

#1

A family gathered around a dinner table, discussing good but socially unacceptable advice. Family should not get a free pass because they're family. Family isn't everything.

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    #2

    Two people shaking hands over a table, representing advice that is good but socially not acceptable. Often the best way to get a job isn't through working hard, getting a good education, and being tireless - it's having a friend who already works at the company.

    CrunchyKorm , Ron Lach/Pexels Report

    #3

    A silhouette of a person on a hill at sunset, symbolizing embracing advice that is good but socially not acceptable. Put yourself first. Most people you go out of your way for won't do the same for you.

    CaptainFlacid , David Kanigan/Pexels Report

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    #4

    A woman sits alone by the water, contemplating family and socially unacceptable advice. No one's born special. The world owes you nothing. Most people don't achieve their dreams. Do the best you can.

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    #5

    A young woman with dark hair smiles with her eyes closed, reflecting on family advice. People often ask me how I look so young for my age (they usually guess about 10 years under). The thing I don't usually tell them is: it's cuz don't have kids. People don't like that answer.

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    Randomosity
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    37 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm in my mid-thirties and I could easily pass for early twenties. Having no kids definitely helps, along with a young looking face.

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    #6

    A man looking contemplative by a window, reflecting on advice that is good but socially not acceptable. Sometimes it's best to entirely cut yourself off from toxic people. Sure you can forgive them, but you gotta watch out for yourself.

    looks_at_lines , Sharon Manuel joy/Pexels Report

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    #7

    A man in a hat smiling and talking, receiving advice that is good but socially not acceptable. Be a bad liar when it doesn't matter so that when you really need to lie people will believe you.

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    #8

    A young woman with glasses on the phone while holding a planner, symbolizing socially unacceptable advice. Fake it until you make it.

    You might not be the most successful, the coolest, the most put together, etc. It doesn't matter. If people think that you are, they will gravitate towards you naturally.

    bro675 , Ivan S/Pexels Report

    Heffalump
    Community Member
    56 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is BS. They may respect you for a while, but if you're faking it they _will_ see through you.

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    #9

    A couple embracing by a lake, illustrating Family Isn't Everything, prioritizing individual relationships. Looks determine who comes together.
    Character determines who stays together.

    So if you're aiming for the short run, you better shape up.

    Prinz_von_Kirchberg , Uriel Mont/Pexels Report

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    #10

    A clenched fist, representing strength or anger related to the idea that family isn't everything. If your kid is being picked on , don't tell them to ignore the bully. Tell them to sweep the leg then drop the elbow. It's the only proven bully repellant.

    anon , Ahmad Roihan Muqoddes/Pexels Report

    Bored Jellyfish
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    8 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No. I’d never encourage my kids to use physical violence to solve problems. A bully’s goal is solely to get any reaction of some nature.

    #11

    A couple arguing, one with crossed arms and a sad expression, conveying that family isn't everything. You will be exponentially happier and achieve more in life if you are ruthless about removing any and all toxic, negative and/or unnecessarily critical people from your life and inner circle, even if they are close family.

    Most people scoff at being so heartless as to completely cut someone out so quickly and completely, citing someone's other "good" qualities, bad run in life, personality, familial ties or personal difficulties excusing them for their jerk behavior that ultimately takes value from your life.

    Gleeful_Robot , Keira Burton/Pexels Report

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    #12

    Get an abortion if you are not in the most prepared situation to have a child that you can possibly be in. No one wins if you both struggle for the rest of your lives.

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    #13

    Two women having coffee and conversing, discussing advice that is good but socially not acceptable. Flattery works on everyone. The trick is to figure out what flavor of flattery suits each person. Sometimes it's simply agreeing with someone's opinions. Sometimes it's being flirtatious. Sometimes it's making a show of being subordinate. Sometimes it's directly including someone in jokes. Sometimes it's asking questions or for advice. Sometimes it's just noticing someone.

    Flattery works on everyone. It's best not to admit that openly, but if you're doing it right, people can know your plan and still not be able to stop you, because they won't want to.

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    #14

    Silhouettes of people in a smoky, fiery setting, illustrating the challenging nature of advice that is good but socially not acceptable. My favorite: follow the small rules and you can break the big ones

    (1984).

    anon , Alexander Zvir/Pexels Report

    #15

    A man looking intently at another person, suggesting the complexity of relationships when family isn't everything. Get rid of friends that bring constant negativity into your life. There are so many positive people out there that are much more deserving of your life

    Along that same line, try your best to be a positive influence in others' lives. Your friendship will be cherished.

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    #16

    Two women embracing, one comforting the other, showing that Family Isn't Everything, and support is crucial. Make yourself happy before you try to help others with their unhappiness. It may seem selfish but if you sacrifice so much of yourself for others you'll run yourself dry and help no one.

    CloudChild , RDNE Stock project/Pexels Report

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    #17

    A man opening a door and looking outside, symbolizing advice that is good but socially not acceptable. Practice and get good at Irish exits.

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    #18

    A person standing on a scale, showing that Family Isn't Everything, but personal health is vital. You should lose some weight.

    anon , Annushka Ahuja/Pexels Report

    Bored Jellyfish
    Community Member
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    6 minutes ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You should keep your unsolicited advice to yourself.

    #19

    Crime scene tape with 'Crime Scene - Do Not Enter' text, symbolizing that family isn't everything. If you find yourself facing an unavoidable crash with a pedestrian, speed up. It's cheaper to pay for a funeral than ten years of medical care.

    - my grandfather, former driving instructor.

    anon , Boys in Bristol Photography/Pexels Report

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    #20

    A man leaving an office with a box of personal items, representing that family isn't everything. Quitting is way underrated. In fact, it's pretty darn awesome sometimes.

    carterothomas , Mikhail Nilov/Pexels Report

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    #21

    Don't tell your problems to anyone, 80% of people don't care and 20% of people are glad you have them. Sorry folks.

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    #22

    Honesty is not always the best policy. Sometimes it's better for all involved if you lie a little.

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    #23

    Can you change it? If not, then you shouldn't give a darn

    If you can change things, go change them.

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    #24

    Don't have kids.

    Never get married.

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    #25

    A guy I used to live above - he was homeless for years as a teenager, he used to score pot off of me - told me once that no matter how bad things get, you have two choices: end yourself or continue living. Every bad situation boiled down to that decision, in his opinion.

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    #26

    A hand crushing a piece of paper, representing the frustration of family expectations and advice. Avoid hiring unlucky people by taking half the applications and immediately throwing them in the trash.

    bainesy3 , Nicola Barts/Pexels Report

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    #27

    Always fact check your professors. Half truths get passed on by teachers more than anything else. Also there is no such thing as non-biased journalism.

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    #28

    There's no such thing as true love, you don't have a soul mate out there waiting for you and there's no happily ever after. Every single romantic film and book and fairy tale and song and TV show is lying to you, building up a collective image that is a poor reflection of reality. It's the relationship equivalent of a Barbie doll, unrealistic and vapid.

    Instead of all that what you have is a lot of people whose personality is more or less compatible with yours. At some point in your life you're going to find yourself in lust with one of those people. You're going to want to spend all of your waking hours with them, you're going to miss them so much when they're not with you that it's going to hurt. And you're going to want to do the kinds of things to them and with them that you cannot under any circumstances tell grandma about. The real depraved stuff that would cause her to drag you straight down to church to ask Jesus for forgiveness.

    You're going to fall in lust a hundred times over the course of your life. Maybe more. And sooner or later you're going to fall in lust with someone who has fallen in lust with you. There will be many of those too. Maybe a handful, maybe a few dozen. And out of those, eventually, if you're lucky, you'll find someone worth loving.

    Now pay attention kids, because here's what love is. It's not burning passion and flaming hearts and sappy Hallmark moments. Love doesn't proclaim itself from the rooftops. Love is what comes after all of that. It's quieter than that, and more modest. Love is hard work. It's toiling, every day without end, because this person is worth the effort. Being in love doesn't mean not seeing your partner's flaws; it means knowing every single one of them, and deciding that you're going to put up with them for the sake of him or her. You don't fall in love; you dive in, and you swim for all you're worth.

    Sometimes you fall out of love. Sometimes you can't give it the effort it deserves. Or sometimes it just becomes no longer worth it. That's okay. Most of us are going to be on one end or the other of this at some point in our lives. But there's good news, though. Because you chose to fall in love. And that means, once you get over the heartbreak, you can choose to do it again.

    I think there are a lot of people who will disagree with my definition of love. Everyone wants the fairy tale. But the fairy tale is a lie. I like my way better.

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    #29

    Most people are idiots.
    *Present company excluded, of course.

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    #30

    Use advantages to the most. If you find a flaw in a system, find a way to exploit it.

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    #31

    You never "owe" anyone anything. Do it because you want to, because your honor is important to you, because you want to be a decent guy-- but you are never obligated to be miserable on someone else's behalf.


    Look out for your mental health first. Your sense of security, self-esteem and stability are important. Don't get involved with people that make you feel bad or put your life into chaos.

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    #32

    It's okay to be angry at people who've wronged you, it's okay to want revenge, it's okay to feel all sorts of negative emotions that you're told you're not 'supposed' to. Sometimes acting on those is bad for you, and sometimes hanging on to something unreasonably long doesn't make sense, but you're not obliged to forgive people or to feel bad for being angry or upset.

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    #33

    Pay no attention to the "professional perpetually offended" crowd, race baiters, and stupid idiots who have a victim mentality who scream "racism" at any opportunity even where there is none.

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    #34

    No one cares about you but you. If someone is helping you it helps them in someway.

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    #35

    The HR staff is not there to help you, they are there to help the company.


    If some whom you love, and who loves you, says "tell me the truth", tell the truth. If anybody else says it, it's probably in your best interest to lie. The court-appointed therapist is not your friend.

    When working around machines, never put your hands where you wouldn't put your wiener.

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    #36

    When you're ill, ring into work, and try and act Ill. It's unacceptable because of how ridiculous and uneccessarry it is.

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    #37

    You are responsible for your actions. Act that way.

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    #38

    People judge you based on how you dress. Dress like trash and you will be perceived as one.

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    #39

    When driving, assume that everyone else on the road is a complete idiot.

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